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Childless
by choice is a frequently employed euphemism for child-free
individuals that is, those people who do not possess the need, nor
the desires to have kids. For childless males, most of them continue
to find a respected place in today's world, in contrast to childless
ladies, that are thought of as both insane cat-lovers or lonesome
spinsters. Single women of all ages with no children are under
massive pressure from modern society. It seems that society cannot
accept that a woman is happy living the bachelor life and
being free to make her own choices.
More
often than not, these single women without children are almost always
pitied by others, and many will question why and how these depressed
spinsters opted for a lifestyle which is against the norm for almost
everyone. How normal is it that one woman will make a public decision
not to venture in the accepted lifestyle of motherhood? Generally,
women that prefer to be child-free will become a social concern
issue. These ladies are confronted with controversy and disapproval
from family members, close friends along with society in general. As
with "bread" and "butter" going hand in hand, the
words "woman" and "mother" have also been terms
related so much to each other. So when one woman makes a decision
that she isn't prepared to be a mommy, and would prefer to remainn
child-free , society has the tendency to think that you could not be
a "woman" if you will not be a "mother."
I
am one of those women. Children have no appeal for me. I am single at
present, but that might change later if I meet the right man.
However, I know that I have no interest in having a child. I like the
ability to just make last minute plans, to travel to exotic places
and to focus on having a career. Does it make me lonely? Of course
not! I have friends, I have family, I have a dog (no crazy cat lady
here). I love my bachelor life! My mother tells me that if I
put off having a child for too long then it will be too late if I
change my mind later in life. I don't feel that 'just in case' is a
valid reason for bringing a baby into the world so I will stay as I
am - financially independent, moving up the career ladder and having
fun!
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